sometimes the person who loves you most has no idea how you are...feeling.
nkem. you are my own.
an app that lets your person know how you really are, before you have to find the words.
you know this feeling
"he didn't know i was off until it became a fight."
"i didn't know you were in the mood. you never said."
"i only find out something's wrong when it's already too late."
you were guessing, because you couldn't see how they were feeling.
a note from Mofiyinfoluwa Okupe
Love is a language. But we don’t always understand it.
Life happens. Hormones change. The weather rages. All of a sudden, there are no words even though the love is right there between you.
Nkem will be the bridge between you and your lover, on the days when words are not enough.
With just a tap of the button, your lover will know the things you cannot say, the things that feel too heavy. We’ll be here for you on the hard days, across the distance and on the happy days too.
With Nkem, your love will always have a voice.
Be you. Be understood. Be loved.
words by Mofiyinfoluwa Okupe
Mofiyinfoluwa Okupe is a writer, creative producer and facilitator, and the founder of The Abebi AfroNonfiction Foundation, which champions African women's stories through the Abebi Award and Fellowship.
what nkem is
why it works
there's a reason naming a feeling makes it lighter. we built the whole thing around that.
the science is real. we just don't make you sit through it.
the story
he is yoruba. she grew up in delta.
they love each other. they still misread each other.
she does things that are normal to her and strange to him.
he does the same to her.
nobody is wrong. it's two worlds in one house.
at their wedding she gave him a name. nkem. my own.
so he built an app called nkem.
now when she is not okay, he knows. before it becomes a fight.
you are my own.
PilotAde, Lagos
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